This week I had the privilege of spending some time with one of my favorite men in the world, a dear friend. As many of our visits begin, this one started with him convincing me to hit the streets at an ungodly time of night. Fitting considering we picked each other up almost 8 years ago at a frat party during Spring Break in Miami. We danced, hopped into a car together with a group of recent strangers, party hopped around the city, the things college kids do on warm nights near the beach, the kind of night that ends where the night should, with the rising of the sun.
We stayed in touch over the years, Miami, Minneapolis, Los Angeles, New York (Rome soon?), our friendship has seen more cities than many people have.
I distinctly remember that our friendship grew out of great conversations, from Miami, to Facebook, then the phone, talking about God, our families and our dreams. A 19 and 21-year-old musing about what they saw for their futures. Me, I was going to be an attorney, wear suits and pumps everyday. Long hours–successful, and black, and a woman. Him, although a remarkable artist (note to him: “paint me something!”) with a penace for style, was going to be a corporate executive. We imagined good-upstanding-young-educated-minority-futures ahead of us.
8 years later, I’ve quit my job as an attorney and moved to New York to write (cliche’ I know). He has just launched and designed an exquisite leather and denim brand. We are both very happy. We are also optimistically uncertain about what the future will bring (hopefully more of what it has delivered lately).
Sitting, sharing, and remembering with him and many old friends always reminds me that time transforms. That who we are today can be so very different than who we will be tomorrow. That we have the power to make choices to change our lives or simply our minds. And that really, we have no way of knowing where we will be in 10, 20, 30 years. Sure we have plans, but if we’re really lucky, very blessed, things will be a lot different than what we’ve been able to dream up thus far.